tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post2399679531576676278..comments2024-01-28T05:20:01.172-08:00Comments on The Cynical Sailor & His Salty Sidekick: Cruising Couples & Ways Of SailingThe Cynical Sailorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11047491682363507834noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-14693709676302342952013-12-18T11:16:29.627-08:002013-12-18T11:16:29.627-08:00Hi Norm - thanks for reading our blog and sharing ...Hi Norm - thanks for reading our blog and sharing your story. I just checked out your blog - nice racing pictures! Cheers - EllenThe Cynical Sailorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11047491682363507834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-75322809353799068132013-12-18T07:50:14.842-08:002013-12-18T07:50:14.842-08:00Thanks for writing. My wife and I are still in tr...Thanks for writing. My wife and I are still in training with our practice boat. I did make an ass out of myself once by yelling during a race. It really is a terrible thing to do. After seven years of cruising and racing together, one dumb remark nearly killed it. As a racing sailor I have been shouted at a number of times, it always motivated me to improve (avoid repeating the insult). <br /><br />Don't shout. Only raise your voice to be heard.Norm Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04827590318910793811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-81870762756562723622013-11-29T10:26:28.766-08:002013-11-29T10:26:28.766-08:00Thanks Cheryl!Thanks Cheryl!The Cynical Sailorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11047491682363507834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-25771107263761674612013-11-29T08:54:24.414-08:002013-11-29T08:54:24.414-08:00Great post! I think both Ken and I will be more o...Great post! I think both Ken and I will be more of a traveler than a sailor. Enjoyed the next post with the penguins!Cheryl @ Mid-Life Cruising!http://www.mid-lifecruising.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-74429531106654445462013-11-25T16:04:43.305-08:002013-11-25T16:04:43.305-08:00The wireless headsets are a great idea and sound s...The wireless headsets are a great idea and sound so cool! I want some too! Talking through a plan of action ahead of time is so important. Scott and I are both somewhat introverted types and often have great plans in our heads but sometimes (often?) forget to tell each other what our plans are only to find out they we have quite different ideas about what we're doing right when we're executing our plan(s). <br /><br />I have a million more HR stories - who knows, a few more may slip out from time to time. The Cynical Sailorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11047491682363507834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-6323896286376568772013-11-25T15:55:25.476-08:002013-11-25T15:55:25.476-08:00Great topic! Mike and I had our first three week c...Great topic! Mike and I had our first three week cruise alone together this summer. Until this year, our son and/or daughter was with us and that meant extra hands on deck. This time, with just the two of us, we found that we are both, ahemm... oldest children. We are both leaders, and we both jump to it when something happens. When that 'something' is leaving an anchorage and we don't have good charts, or getting out of the way of boats who are racing and we've been caught in the middle, things are apt to get a little tense. After a few unpleasant discussions with tears involved, we found that the problem lies in failure to communicate a plan of action to deal with the situation. He assumes that I know he has a plan and will just follow his lead, (not), and I assume that I am to help with the 'situation' and take my usual role of steering or whatever. We had an 'a ha' moment. With the new, bigger boat, this is going to be mission critical. Plus, I wear hearing aids so yelling doesn't usually cut it with me on many levels. We are not going to rely anymore on hand signals. We are buying some of those wireless headsets. We'll have secondary hand signals for if they stop working (because, you know, you shouldn't be completely dependent on electronics, right?) but at least we'll be able to talk in normal tones of voice to give directions or, in my case, follow them. <br />Had to roar with laughter about your HR experiences 'facilitating'. So true. so true. LittleCunningPlan.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15459050510084587089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-58791584726522944722013-11-25T11:08:45.495-08:002013-11-25T11:08:45.495-08:00Scott and I have never worked together professiona...Scott and I have never worked together professionally before so beginning to cruise full-time as a couple has been a really interesting learning experience for both of us. We've had to explore things about how we work together that we would probably never would have had to if we stayed on land. <br /><br />I think Scott has a "How to Brainwash Your Partner" manual he can lend you so that your wife says "yes" to the sailing lifestyle. It seems to have worked on me. :-) He has definitely been less successful in convincing me that racing is a good idea so your wife is definitely right about that one.<br /><br />Thanks for reading!<br /><br />Cheers - EllenThe Cynical Sailorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11047491682363507834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717926498377706091.post-76612222716431930822013-11-25T10:58:19.119-08:002013-11-25T10:58:19.119-08:00Hi Ellen,
Great topic. Surely just about every co...Hi Ellen,<br /><br />Great topic. Surely just about every couple has to figure out what the point of the boat is and how to communicate and how to stay safe and and and and...<br /><br />I've mostly convinced my wife that selling it all and living on a boat is a great idea. She's definitely in your camp about racing though.<br /><br />The learning styles is a clever insight, proving what we all should know by now that boys and girls learn differently. Who wouldn't like the boat heeled way over and giant waves crashing in? :)<br /><br />Moral of the story: This resonated with me. Thanks.Natenoreply@blogger.com